Last year was a biggun for me. I'm proud of some of the highlights I had. My kids Jiu Jitsu program was on the cover of the Post and Courier, I did an easy 60 shows (not including open mics) with comedy, and I made vast strides in my Jiu Jitsu training. My income went up and my weight went down. But somehow, I went through most of the year thinking I was somehow fucking up or missing the mark.
Why? Some of this is self inflicted. As I have gotten older, I've recognized more and more of the ADD symptoms in the functions of my own brain. I need pressure, because its the only thing that helps me summon myself and do great work.
The crazy but inspiring sales guru Grant Cardone has what he calls the "10x rule". The premise is that everything is harder than you think. And overestimating is way more valuable than underestimating. If you're trying to make 100k in 2018, you'd be better suited to aim at $1,000,000. If you really want that $100k and you've never done it, you have to recognize that you are probably a bad guesser of how much work it will take to make it. So aim at $1,000,000. Only then will you summon the proper amount of energy and action to get what you want.
This makes instant sense to me. Its how I structure things for myself and is one of the ways I get leverage over my unruly mind. The problem is this can also be a miserable way to live. Writing down every day that you are going to make $1,000,000 when you have $800 bucks in your checking account can have a reverse effect where you actually start feeling so far from your goal that it repels you and you give up.
This is where many people's goal plans fall apart. And this is where I think I made myself miserable a lot last year. Most people will try, then either give up on goal setting or scale them back to a point that is uninspiring and give up again.
Here is what I have learned from last year and what I hope to do for myself in 2018.
Russian stacking dolls, imagination, and micro bites.
Russian stacking doll
Lets use the $1,000,000 target which I have never even come close to but love to reach.
If I was trying to make a million, I would write it like this: This year I made $100,000 ($1,000,000).
I write down the attainable if I work hard target, but I put it right next to the big time goal. A Russian stacking doll is a large doll comprised of smaller ones. I think goals are the same.
This is old school Tony Robbins shit but still helpful. If you are trying to achieve anything, its probably not for the thing itself but the way it will make you feel. He prescribes practicing the feeling of what hitting that goal will feel like. This sounds silly, but its a way to engage your emotions in what can become a stale mental exercise. Try it and see how you feel.
If you want to lose ten pounds, writing that down every day is ok, but you also need to plan and be accountable for the humble actions that will produce that big result. You can't lose ten pounds today, but you can go for a run. You can't go down a dress size, but you can eat a clean lunch. Small bites.
My hope for myself this year is not to slow down, but to make a more livable environment in my head and heart. I want to move at the same speed, but I don't want my car to be filled with emotional trash. Like my real car, which is where Burger King cups go to die. Thats another year's goal.